Life with a newborn is hard. I don’t think anyone would disagree with that. One of the more challenging issues that new moms face is sleep. It’s rare that a new baby will be a natural born sleeper. That is why I am very excited that Lori Strong, a certified child sleep consultant and owner of Strong Little Sleepers has put together a post on newborn sleep. I love the title of her post in particular because I remember in the early days Googling this exact phrase “how to get a newborn to calm down and sleep.” She offers some great advice that I wish I would have had in those early days! I love that she mentions the 5s’s because that is something that really worked for us and I share it with all my new mom friends!
By Lori Strong
As a mom to a newborn, sleep can be one of the most important (and most looked forward to) parts of the day. Whether it’s nap time, or sleep time during this phase of life rest is critical for growing little ones. If you have a feisty baby, sleep and periods of calm are tough to come by. You may find yourself jealous of those moms who claim, “Oh my baby slept through the night at 9 weeks!” or others who commiserate with you by saying, “Naptime is the worst in our house too, just let the baby cry!”
These moms, while they are trying to be helpful, aren’t actually giving you the guidance and confidence to feel like restful sleep is attainable.
Yet, it is!
Those first few months are tough, we’ve all been there. Know that you aren’t doing anything “wrong” and remember there are a few thing to keep in mind as you and your baby find peace and sleep
HOW TO GET A FUSSY NEWBORN TO CALM DOWN & SLEEP
1. All Babies Cry
If you have a baby that cries a lot, consider this: all babies cry a lot. During the fussy newborn phase though some babies may seem to cry all day long. You probably even hear the term “colicky” tossed around. Do your research, talk to your pediatrician to see if your baby does, in fact, suffer from this syndrome or if it something more common such as acid reflux or an allergy. Maybe your baby is just being a baby and figuring out this thing called life. Either way, chances are they will grow out of it.
2. All Babies Learn to Sleep
Eventually, your child will learn how to sleep for long periods of time. In all my years of work, I’ve never known a 5-year-old to still wake up multiple times a night.
Now, that’s not to say your baby won’t go through phases of sleep regression or have trouble falling asleep as a toddler, but just know that as humans our bodies eventually give in to sleep and your baby will too. It might take some work on your end though by setting up a schedule, proactively guiding your child to nap or making changes to a routine.
3. Do Your Homework
Try out different techniques to see what works for your baby. It’s important to find what fits your parenting style. Maybe the Cry-it-Out Method works wonders for a friend, but it scares you. Try it out. Maybe the 5 S’s of calming looks interesting, yet you are uncertain. Try them out to see what is best for you. I highly recommend the 5s’s (any or all of them) to help soothe a fussy baby.
4. Don’t Believe Everything You Hear (or Read)
There is so much information available on the web today and via word-of-mouth, do yourself a favor and trust your gut. Each baby is different and you know your child best. If you need extra validation, call the pediatrician or consult a local parenting resource to find someone that can help with your specific needs.
5. This is Only Temporary
This baby phase is short period of time in the grand scheme of life. It will all be gone in the blink of an eye and one day you’ll wake up after an entire 8-hours of rest and think, “Where did my cute little baby go?” Trust me, I have a 9-year-old so I know how quickly life can sneak up on you. At the end of the day, you are doing the best you can mama. You only want what’s right for your child. We all do. I’m here to remind you to want the best for your own body too. That means asking for help when you need it, checking in with your emotional well-being and seeking support during those times you don’t “enjoy every minute of Motherhood.” There are fellow mamas and experts around the corner. Plus, I’m always here if you need me too!
Lori Strong is a certified child sleep consultant and owner of Strong Little Sleepers. She transforms families by educating and empowering them to restore their sleep. Learn more at http://www.stronglittlesleepers.com. Get even more tips in our Facebook community and join us for Nap Chat, a live Q & A session each Friday.
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